Lube!
Before we get into anything sex-y, I'd like to announce that I'll be updating this blog every Monday for your viewing pleasure.
I thought this time around, I’d get a little more basic in discussion topic, and choose something that is an absolute staple to anyone’s sex life – single, monogamous, polygamous, whatever. Lubrication not only makes sex-stuff more fun, it also makes it safer. Lubricated bits have less of a chance of getting micro-tears on them that are open highways into your bloodstream for any little virus or bacteria that’s willing to venture your open road. It also makes condoms have less of a chance of tearing, which is why so many come lubricated.
There are some people out there who don’t want to use lubes. Or think that they shouldn’t “have to” use lubes. Like they’re supposed to be a tap of free-flowing lust or something. Wrong, so very wrong! Using lube is lots of fun, and in some situations, is absolutely necessary, like anal play and fisting. But, I’m getting ahead of myself. Any play with a vibe really needs lube, since the friction of the vibrators is pretty intense, and the last thing anyone needs is vibrator-burn on their bits. Lubes are usually made from three different bases: oil, silicone, and water.
Oil
Oil-based lubes are the kind you can find around your house, and include moisturizers, Vaseline, and any other kind of oil you can think of. These are great for solo play for bio-boys, but using oil in a vagina is a really super terrible thing to do. Vaginas have a hell of time flushing oil out, and it will just stick to the walls and harbour bacteria, more than likely causing an infection. And not the kind that can be cured by an over-the-counter yeast infection medication, cuz these infections aren’t yeast. So, leave oil-based products for your skin, and don’t stick ‘em in your cooch! Most personal lubricants are not oil-based; people usually end up using something oil-based when their usual lube has run out. I really really really don’t suggest it. Really. So, the motto is to always make sure you have enough lube on hand. Really.
Silicone
Silicone is a man-made product and in liquid form is extremely slippery – so much so that it has to be washed off with soap and water. It’s the most expensive of the lubes out there, and a little goes along way. It’s great for extended play, but can’t be used with silicone toys, since it will strip off the coating on the toys and turn them to mush. Sad. So very sad. There’s also some questions about whether or not liquid silicone is a carcinogen – it’s essentially the same stuff used in breast implants, which have been seen to cause some pretty nasty stuff in women whose implants have burst. So, if you’re into using it, just see it more as a “special occasion” lube, rather than an everyday kind. And do some homework on it, too. It is the only kind that can stand up to playing in the shower or tub, so it’s a nice thing to have around. Being expensive and not an “all the time” lube, I would suggest getting this kind in little pocket packs.
Water
Water-based lubes are the most common, and are usually quite inexpensive. These are the ones you can find in different flavours, or that heat up, or whatever. These are definitely the safest for use. The one down-side of them (of course it couldn’t be perfect) is that they dry up faster than either oil- or silicone-based ones. The way to lessen this is pretty simple. If you’re finding your lube drying out, DO NOT add more lube! This will make everything stickier. The water in the lube has just evaporated, and if you add WATER back into it, everything’s hunky dory. Even spit will bring it back to its original slipperiness.
Caveats for lubes and sex toys:
1. Oil-based lubes will destroy latex-based toys just like they destroy latex condoms. Oil sucks, really.
2. Silicoe-based lubes will destroy/damage silicone-based toys. The liquid binds to the solid silicone, wrecks the finish and turns the toy into guck.
And that's that! Go get some water-based lube and avoid the chafing.
I thought this time around, I’d get a little more basic in discussion topic, and choose something that is an absolute staple to anyone’s sex life – single, monogamous, polygamous, whatever. Lubrication not only makes sex-stuff more fun, it also makes it safer. Lubricated bits have less of a chance of getting micro-tears on them that are open highways into your bloodstream for any little virus or bacteria that’s willing to venture your open road. It also makes condoms have less of a chance of tearing, which is why so many come lubricated.
There are some people out there who don’t want to use lubes. Or think that they shouldn’t “have to” use lubes. Like they’re supposed to be a tap of free-flowing lust or something. Wrong, so very wrong! Using lube is lots of fun, and in some situations, is absolutely necessary, like anal play and fisting. But, I’m getting ahead of myself. Any play with a vibe really needs lube, since the friction of the vibrators is pretty intense, and the last thing anyone needs is vibrator-burn on their bits. Lubes are usually made from three different bases: oil, silicone, and water.
Oil
Oil-based lubes are the kind you can find around your house, and include moisturizers, Vaseline, and any other kind of oil you can think of. These are great for solo play for bio-boys, but using oil in a vagina is a really super terrible thing to do. Vaginas have a hell of time flushing oil out, and it will just stick to the walls and harbour bacteria, more than likely causing an infection. And not the kind that can be cured by an over-the-counter yeast infection medication, cuz these infections aren’t yeast. So, leave oil-based products for your skin, and don’t stick ‘em in your cooch! Most personal lubricants are not oil-based; people usually end up using something oil-based when their usual lube has run out. I really really really don’t suggest it. Really. So, the motto is to always make sure you have enough lube on hand. Really.
Silicone
Silicone is a man-made product and in liquid form is extremely slippery – so much so that it has to be washed off with soap and water. It’s the most expensive of the lubes out there, and a little goes along way. It’s great for extended play, but can’t be used with silicone toys, since it will strip off the coating on the toys and turn them to mush. Sad. So very sad. There’s also some questions about whether or not liquid silicone is a carcinogen – it’s essentially the same stuff used in breast implants, which have been seen to cause some pretty nasty stuff in women whose implants have burst. So, if you’re into using it, just see it more as a “special occasion” lube, rather than an everyday kind. And do some homework on it, too. It is the only kind that can stand up to playing in the shower or tub, so it’s a nice thing to have around. Being expensive and not an “all the time” lube, I would suggest getting this kind in little pocket packs.
Water
Water-based lubes are the most common, and are usually quite inexpensive. These are the ones you can find in different flavours, or that heat up, or whatever. These are definitely the safest for use. The one down-side of them (of course it couldn’t be perfect) is that they dry up faster than either oil- or silicone-based ones. The way to lessen this is pretty simple. If you’re finding your lube drying out, DO NOT add more lube! This will make everything stickier. The water in the lube has just evaporated, and if you add WATER back into it, everything’s hunky dory. Even spit will bring it back to its original slipperiness.
Caveats for lubes and sex toys:
1. Oil-based lubes will destroy latex-based toys just like they destroy latex condoms. Oil sucks, really.
2. Silicoe-based lubes will destroy/damage silicone-based toys. The liquid binds to the solid silicone, wrecks the finish and turns the toy into guck.
And that's that! Go get some water-based lube and avoid the chafing.
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